It is becoming increasingly difficult for me to understand complementarianism, because I keep getting “Twitter blocked” by their “strongest” advocates (great way to get your message out there, guys).
I will say this about good ole’ Douglas Wilson – he has not blocked me and I have not gone easy on him or his daughter, so c’mon, feminists, we gotta hand it to him for this.
I hate to admit it, but I have gained a bit of respect for the Wilson family. Of course, I will continue to stand with the victims of their so-called “empire,” but they are the only complementarian “public figures” who have taken the time to engage with me. At least Rebekah Merkle’s smart mouth shows that her parents have allowed her to be human.
So far, I have been blocked by The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW).
May I just be honest? Even their name makes me cringe; I am not saying they are self-righteous (ahem), but I am saying that the name of their organization is self-righteous.
It is as if they are saying that they have found the hidden formula of “biblical” manhood and womanhood and will counsel us if we will simply sit at their feet and submit to their gender-based hierarchical establishment.
On top of this, I have been blocked by one of their “golden boys,” Gavin Peacock, whose theology is increasingly getting stranger.
When I first reached out to Peacock about his “out-there” theology, he asked me if I wanted to email about it. I said, “No, I want to have a Twitter conversation about it.” I don’t want to sign up for your blog, Peacock; I am simply trying to understand how your patriarchal mind works in 140 letters….Geesh. Ok, maybe he was right to block me. Whatever. Moving on.
I then moved on to a female who writes for CBMW, but I was really nice about my question. (I am nicer to women. I know it is sexist and I am working on it, so give me a break.)
She wrote a tweet about how she wanted her boys to grow up to be courageous. I simply tweeted something like, “If you had daughters, would you teach them to be courageous like Judge Deborah in the Old Testament?” She never answered and blocked me that day. WHAT?! Why?! It was an honest question.
I genuinely think most complementarians are afraid of strong women who read and understand the Bible for themselves.
I have had complementarian friends tell me that they cannot “like” my Facebook ministry page (find here if you want to “LIKE”…love my plug?!) because the young women that they are mentoring might see and get confused.
I have had complementarian friends who I thought I was close to unfriend me on my personal facebook page. Theology is never worth dumping friends over. Never. But, if you want to be a blogger who writes about stuff that actually matters, you will lose friends.
It is simply the nature of this business that you work 60 hours a week (or more) and make little to no money (HAHA). I laugh to keep from cryin.’ 😉
So, what are complementarians so afraid of? Seriously, I am asking YOU! I have 12 guesses, but maybe I am wrong.
- That the interpretation of the Bible that they (and their family) have clung to for a long time is WRONG and they don’t want to admit it?
- That some evangelical feminists might actually love Jesus?
- That some evangelical feminists might actually believe the Bible to be the inspired, authoritative Word of God and can prove their theology with really great points?
- That some evangelical feminists may not be falling down the “slippery slopes” predicted, by loosening up on so-called “biblical gender roles?”
- That some evangelical feminist women actually love men?
- That some evangelical feminists ARE men?
- That some men actually want to be loved even more than they want to be respected, and some women may actually want to be respected even more than they want to be loved?
- That some men actually enjoy being stay-at-home dads?
- That some women actually enjoy going to work and being breadwinners for their families?
- That some women are fiercely protective?
- That some men are more emotionally sensitive than their wives?
- That some wives want sex more than their husbands do?
Ok, 13 questions. Are they afraid that women and men might actually be human, complex, wonderfully made and unable to fit into ill-fitting boxes (pretty sure that is in the Bible somewhere)?
I could go on, but I don’t want to take all the good ones. So, what is it?
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