Stop Defending Yourself


I went to Bible School when I was 18-years-old and brought all of my teenage immaturity with me. I was young, ready to meet new friends and have a whole lot of fun! God blessed me with the most amazing set of girlfriends. Like me, they were girly, into the latest fashion trends, and perhaps just a little boy crazy. Sometimes we wore our pants a little too tight, our shorts a little too short, and stayed out a little too late, but we adored Jesus with all our hearts. We had no sense of conviction for doing normal teenage-girl things. God was working on our hearts in more important areas at that time of our lives and He was less concerned with the clothes we wore. Sadly, some of the less gracious kids on the block were caught up in legalism and self-righteousness.

It didn’t take long before these teens, who believed they were more suitable Christians than us, to spread rumors that we were bad girls. Looking back I find this quite humorous considering our values were avoiding pre-marital sex, getting drunk, and swearing. Did I mention we all chose to leave our homes to go to Bible school as 18-years-olds? Needless to say, our reputations started to take a downward spiral and our young hearts were quite discouraged and confused.

Within this time a fairly famous preacher who was hysterical and loved by teens everywhere visited our campus as the guest speaker for the week. He captivated the young audience and earned our respect within minutes (and we all know how unimpressed teenagers can be). Day in and day out this man had a couple thousand teens eating out of the palm of his hand. He was just that cool. My friends and I were going though a tough season with our peers but never reacted to the undeserved judgment and gossip. I don’t think we knew how to react even if we wanted to, but the truth is that God was about to teach all of us a very big life-lesson.

Towards the end of the week, the beloved preacher did something that he hadn’t done all week. Out of about two thousand students, he randomly called four very discouraged girls up on stage (who he had never met). He proceeded to say that God had put a word in his heart for us. In front of the whole school, He said that God had a great purpose for each of our lives and that despite what people said God is pleased with our hearts. It was truly mind-blowing! Our enemies’ mouths were shut, we didn’t have to defend our honor, the Lord came to our rescue and we no longer cared if our peers looked down on us.

That day, God taught me that he has my back and that as a child of His, I no longer have to defend myself. The Lord is my judge, my lawyer, my defending witness, and my jury; I cannot lose a case with Him in my court. If I need a person to defend me, He will send someone more suitable than me to plead my case and humiliate those who oppose me. Often when we try to defend ourselves, we end up looking foolish and embarrassing ourselves but when we entrust avenges to our God, He is faithful to do what should be done. God’s Word is clear. If He is for us, who then can be against us (Romans 8:31).

Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD.

Romans 12:19

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