Here’s what I want you to do: Make a mental list of your top 5 leaders in the Body of Christ that you learn from or you consider to be a mentor to you. They don’t have to be people you personally know. They can be authors or preachers that you follow online.
Now how many of those people on that list are women? MANY of the people I ask to do this, even egalitarians, pick all men or mostly men.
Could it be that we as women subconsciously don’t trust women?
Moment of truth: When I tried this same little exercise, almost a year ago, I picked mostly men theologians on my list too. As I got to thinking about it, the teachers I had favored in college were normally men, every gynecologist I’d had throughout my life was a man, my kids’ pediatricians were all men, and if I needed big advice…. yep, you guessed it: without ever even realizing it, my wise counsel consisted mostly of men.
It wasn’t because I don’t know any credible women teachers, pastors, theologians, leaders, etc. In fact I realized that even my “inner circle” of trusted people in real life didn’t contain as many credible women as it did men.
This opened my eyes and made me really examine my heart to ask myself why was I not trusting women leaders to speak into my life? Sometimes we have subconscious thought tendencies that we have to address and confront within ourselves. Sometimes it’s that we were wounded when we were younger. I think part of the healing process is forgiving any women who hurt us over the course of our life, whether they meant to or not.
If we want to further the egalitarian cause then here’s a list of things that I know need to change:
WE NEED TO TRUST ONE ANOTHER.
We need to support one another.
We need to stop competing with one another.
We need to rejoice in one another’s victories.
We need to mourn with one another’s losses.
We are sisters. Your victories are my victories. When you hurt I hurt. When you win I win; our daughters win. We are not enemies. We are not a problem. We are solutions to problems. We are princess warriors. We are not afraid. We are not alone. We have each other.
Let’s talk about Mary and her cousin Elizabeth:
A few days later Mary hurried to the hill country of Judea, to the town where Zechariah lived. She entered the house and greeted Elizabeth. At the sound of Mary’s greeting, Elizabeth’s child leaped within her, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit.
Elizabeth gave a glad cry and exclaimed to Mary, “God has blessed you above all women, and your child is blessed. Why am I so honored, that the mother of my Lord should visit me? When I heard your greeting, the baby in my womb jumped for joy. You are blessed because you believed that the Lord would do what he said.” Luke 1:39-45
What would the Body of Christ look like if we could run to our sisters during our most vulnerable time in life? Mary was carrying a promise but life wasn’t easy for her. She was able to run to her cousin. Not only did Elizabeth already divinely know Mary’s news, but Elizabeth was able to rejoice with Mary who this great honor was bestowed upon. Why? Because Elizabeth knew she carried her own promise. Different, but equally wonderful.
I pray that we can be an Elizabeth to someone in our lifetime. I pray we can each be a safe place for a sister, protecting her, protecting her promise, protecting her calling, and nourishing that sister with joy.
Women: Will you trust me? Will we trust one another?
It’s time to be intentional about promoting our sisters. It’s time to consciously decide to trust the women teachers, women theologians, preachers, prophets, etc. Can I promise you won’t get hurt? Nope. I’m sorry, but I can almost guarantee you WILL experience hurt.
But we will heal together too. We will forgive together and we will love with now restraint. I love you sis. Let’s do this.
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