This post is in response to “Throw Like a Girl: Why Feminism Insults Real Women” by Rebekah Merkle
Complementarians continue to misrepresent feminism, especially Christian feminism. Rebekah Merkle, daughter of extreme patriarchal preacher and author, Douglas Wilson, recently wrote an article entitled, “Throw Like a Girl: Why Feminism Insults Real Women.”
She acts as if she is addressing secular feminism, but the article is written for “Desiring God,” which is an organization founded and run by leading complementarian, John Piper. So, let’s be honest here, this article is actually addressing Christian feminism.
It is yet another jab at egalitarians; a jab that literally makes no sense, because it misrepresents our view, yet again.
Please take note, complementarians: Egalitarians do not believe that men and women are the same, and in actuality, most secular feminists do not believe this, either. We would all have to be intellectually brain dead to believe that men and women were exactly the same. We can see the differences. We are not blind. Rather, we believe that men and women are deserving to try for the SAME LIFE OPPORTUNITIES.
The idea that women are equal to men is not a feminist idea; it’s a Christian idea. The apostle Paul said it long before Elizabeth Cady Stanton or Gloria Steinem when he taught us that in Christ there is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female (Galatians 3:28).
Well, on that we can agree. Rebekah goes on to say,
Think of the way our society cheers for the women who make it into the Navy Seals, or anything similar to that. It’s honestly the same reaction as when the really, really slow kid finally chugs across the finish line of the race, twelve minutes behind everyone else. We women need to stop being so easily flattered by that kind of admiration. If you pay any attention at all, you realize it’s not really a compliment.
Although I think this statement is ultra insulting towards women who are Navy Seals, for the sake of my general argument, I will allow Rebekah to have this one.
In most cases, women are physically weaker than men and in some cases slower. Fine, but what Rebekah fails to mention is that most women are not trying to be Navy Seals.
Many women are trying to be Pastors, CEO’s, Doctors, Lawyers, Business Owners, and the list goes on. And guess what? We as women would like to earn equal pay doing these things and be equally considered for the job in the first place.
We would also like people like Doug Wilson and John Piper to stop writing oppressive, unjust, and simply poor theology books that make it more difficult for trained female seminarians to get hired for pastoral positions.
Last time I checked, it does not take physical strength or male genitals to pastor a church. Women don’t want to lead like men. Women want to lead like women.
We don’t want to show up to the Church or the work place dressed in a suit and tie. No, we want to show up in our pin-skirt and red lipstick, looking like women.
Women want to be women, for the most part. Most women like to shop, and to dress attractively for work. Many women like to keep up with the latest hair and nail trends. Many women enjoy jewelry and all of that girly stuff, but we have passion, brains, spiritual gifts, and strong leadership capabilities that the Spirit of God blessed us with.
Women want to offer their unique feminine style of leading, and that goes way beyond clothes and makeup.
It is high time that the Church supports us and stops writing these non-sense articles that misrepresent women, egalitarianism, and feminism. How sad that Rebekah, a woman herself, would write an article that completely simplifies her very complex sisters in Christ, made in the image of God.
It makes me mad thinking about all of the men who cheered and retweeted this article. Rebekah should be on our side; but instead, she is doing what her dad taught her to do, she is batting for the patriarchy and all of the complementarian men are saying, “You go, girl!”
Don’t think I have not noticed how women get opportunities over in complementarian land. If women are willing to speak out against their sisters or against feminism/egalitarianism, they will get more writing and speaking opportunities.
At complementarian conferences where men are present, women are not permitted to preach, unless of course, they preach against women preachers. It literally makes me sick how complementarian men use their women, and the women just let them. But this is how evil patriarchy works.
Women seek the approval of men and are taught submission to men from a very young age. If they please the men, they are rewarded with praise and retweets. If they go against the grain, they are treated like crap and called names like false prophet, jezebel, false teacher, heretic, etc.
They will even have their women call other women these things. I know, because I have been called these things by both complementarian men and women. It is highly dysfunctional over there in patriarchy land. Obedience equals rewards for women. Disobedience equals punishment for women.
Rebekah, sister, you are fighting a losing battle, for men who are on the losing side. John Piper and your father will not win this one, because the Spirit of God is on the egalitarian side. The Bible is in full support of women leaders, including Junia, a female apostle (Romans 16:7).
We have been over this before, but, if God was cool with a female apostle, which was the highest level of church authority in the early church, he was most certainly cool with a female pastor, elder, or any other leadership position.
Complementarians are wrong, plain and simple. There are no gender roles in the kingdom of God, for we are all one in Jesus Christ. Jesus taught us to pray, Thy Kingdom Come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven. Do we really believe that there will be gender roles in heaven?
Further, why would God not want as many pastors as possible to preach His kingdom and shepherd His people? Complementarian doctrine is simply not reasonable. It is unjust towards women and it only slows down the Gospel from reaching the nations faster.
There are no such things as biblical manhood and biblical womanhood as New Covenant Christians.
There is only “Biblical Christian-hood.” Both men and women are all trying to be like Christ. We are all following after Him. It is that simple. He is our example. Complementarians are overcomplicating the Gospel and the Trinity, and with time, more and more Christians will wake up and walk away from this false doctrine.
May all complementarians repent and turn away from this unjust and unbiblical doctrine that has wounded countless women and men alike, and continues to do so.
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