A Preacher and a Politician #EgalitarianMarriage

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lukeandmeMy Love,

Where did time go? It’s hard to believe that we have been together now for ten years. I remember the day that this picture was taken; you graduated with your master’s degree in government. I was so proud of you. I still had a ways to go in the divinity school. I looked up to you. I loved all of your ideals.

Although the whole “Christian Democrat” thing made me sort of nervous at the time, I was inspired by your passion to combine faith and politics, and your heart for social justice. It has certainly rubbed off on me over the years. I remember you blogging before it was cool; I guess you were ahead of the rest of us.

I once told a classmate that I was dating a guy from the school of government. She loudly proclaimed, “Oh my, a preacher and a politician, watch out!”

I did not quite know what she meant by that statement at the time, but now I do. Oh the trouble a young preacher and a politician can get into over the course of ten years; and how we would push each other to our limits.

I’ve been thinking about a song that you said made you think of me early on in our relationship. The lyrics make me crack a smile,

Love how you curse when I wake you up
Sweetly demand that I fill your cup
With the smile of your cool gunpowder glare
Honey, you lay me bare

You’re the girl of my dreams
And a pistol it seems, but you shoot me straight and true
Time to lay down my bets
Oh, I put all my money on you

When I’m in the dark, girl, you bring me light
It seems like you’re almost always right
So keep boxing my ears when I sew them shut
Baby, you sure are tough

You’re the girl of my dreams
And a pistol it seems, but you shoot me straight and true
Time to lay down my fears
Honey, I feel so safe around you

If the tiller man taught me anything
It’s that a hard headed woman is what I need
To help me to always do my best
Baby, my life is blessed

You’re the girl of my dreams
Darling, please wear this ring
You’re an angel through and through
Time to lay down my life
Honey, I’d do it gladly for you
Time to lay down my life
Honey, I’d do it gladly for you

(“Pistol” Dustin Kensrue)

To say that I have been a pain in the ass these past ten years would be an understatement.

I will admit it. Marriage has not come easily to me. For some reason I have trust issues. I guess it is a “sensitive person” thing. I know my head is as hard as a rock. I know I struggle to listen. I know I can be self-centered. I know that I am as stubborn as they come.

Yet, you have loved and served me through the worst of times and the best of times; your love has truly been unconditional.

My wish is that every woman in the world who wants to be loved by a man would be loved as I have been loved by you. Not that you have been perfect. I mean, you have been a stubborn ass too, but a stubborn ass is perhaps exactly what I needed.

I have appreciated your unbreakable spirit and strong mind; but most of all, your willingness to change and adjust to whatever life throws our way. I am truly proud to be your wife and believe in you always.

And so, 10 years later, I say back to you,

Love how you curse when I wake you up
Sweetly demand that I fill your cup
With the smile of your cool gunpowder glare
Honey, you lay me bare

You’re the boy of my dreams
And a pistol it seems, but you shoot me straight and true
Time to lay down my bets
Oh, I put all my money on you

When I’m in the dark, boy, you bring me light
It seems like you’re almost always right
So keep boxing my ears when I sew them shut
Baby, you sure are tough

You’re the boy of my dreams
And a pistol it seems, but you shoot me straight and true
Time to lay down my fears
Honey, I feel so safe around you

If the tiller man taught me anything
It’s that a hard headed man is what I need
To help me to always do my best
Baby, my life is blessed

You’re the boy of my dreams
Darling, please wear this ring
You’re an angel through and through
Time to lay down my life
Honey, I’d do it gladly for you
Time to lay down my life
Honey, I’d do it gladly for you

There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. ~John 15:13

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