A Letter to the Strong Willed Little Girl

Hey there baby girl.

I have been thinking about you lately. I know you feel misunderstood, but you have no idea what the word “misunderstood” means or how to express your feelings on the matter. This means that sometimes your parents, teachers, and other adults in your life don’t understand your little heart and mind.

Do you know how I know this? Well, because I was a strong willed girl just like you when I was a kid.

Do you know what my guidance counselor told my mom when I was in grade school? She said that I was not “college material.” She didn’t think I was smart because I didn’t seem to care about school. What she didn’t see is that I didn’t care about school because I thought it was boring and didn’t want to care about school. My mom and I sure showed her when I graduated with a master’s degree (that means a whole lot of education).

I know you have your ideas of the way things should be and you are not afraid to fight for it. I like that about you. You are so brave and tough. Sometimes people think you are being bratty, but I don’t think that. I think you are a little person with a great big will to get cool stuff done and that is pretty awesome if you ask me!

Did you know that Jesus made you just the way you are and that He loves your sassy & sweet personality?

Some very strict religious leaders will try to convince your parents to break your strong will so you learn how to obey better, but I sure hope they don’t listen. Jesus has great big things for you to do someday and you are going to need to be exactly who God made you to be.

I know sometimes you feel like a “bad” girl and people call you “bossy,” but what so many don’t know, is that your heart is the size of the whole wide world. I know, that is HUMONGOUS! People sometimes think you are a bit tougher than you actually are. No doubt, courage to fight for what you want and believe in is your special gift, but your little heart is sensitive and it hurts when people are mean to you.

Spankings don’t normally work for you when you are misbehaving. Most of the time, they make you angrier and that strong will of yours rises up to fight against what seems to be unfair. What mom and dad sometimes don’t realize is that you would respond better to rational and fair conversations and maybe losing something that is important to you for a day or two.

Your sensitive heart and strong head can’t normally handle being physically overpowered by a big person.

I know you hate feeling like a “baby.” It’s the worst, isn’t it? But, did you know that adults feel insecure a lot too? Sometimes mom and dad feel like they are doing everything wrong when it comes to raising you, but they are forgetting that it is love that motivates you. I bet they love you with all their hearts and that is what will make you an awesome adult someday.

Things are not easy for us strong willed gals. People don’t always get us or accept us. Sometimes they don’t want us to be leaders, even though we were born leaders. People judge us as troublemakers, but that’s OK. You know why it’s OK? Because Jesus understands us and He loves us just the way we are.

You don’t have to be anyone but yourself. You will probably have to learn the hard way a lot, which will be painful, but you will come through it if you use your super power. Oh, you didn’t know you had a superpower? Of course you have a superpower – all girls have super powers!

Your superpower is your strong will, which often comes with lots of courage and bravery.

You, my little friend, can overcome and do almost anything if you want to. I hope you use your special powers to fight against the bad things in the world. I hope you stick up for the kids who are bullied. I hope you comfort your brothers and sisters when they cry.

Right now you need mom and dad to help you grow up. Let them help you become a young woman. When you get bigger you can do anything you want to do in the world and you don’t need a boy telling you what to do or how to do it. All you need is Jesus because only Jesus truly understands our superpower and He will never call you “bossy” or “bratty.” He will never leave you and he will always love you just the way you are!

Love,

Jory 🙂